Friday, May 15, 2009

30 Seconds to Success (How to Compliment A Woman)

by: SINgleGIRL

You know I'm not a big fan of giving (or taking) advice. But I've been asked to write a post about how to compliment a woman and you know what, I actually think this is a topic I could provide a little assistance with.

I'm going to try something different and just address the rest of this post to the guys in my audience. Sorry girls, but you don't really need help with this. At least not any of the women I know.

Dear Guys,

You can pretty much bet that if a woman likes you she's made some sort of effort to look nice for your benefit. It doesn't matter if it's a first date or 3rd date or someone you've been living with for years. If you're going out tonight, she's made an effort to look good because she wants you to find her attractive. This is practically a sure thing. So, you have a choice to make: You can be the kind of guy who notices this effort (thereby scoring major bonus points) or you can be oblivious. It's your choice. A smart guy is going to choose the former.

Now, I know that not all guys are what I'd consider observant and so I'm going to give you step by step instructions so that you don't screw this up.

First, look at her hair. Does it look different than the last time you saw her? Is it shorter, straighter, up (as opposed to worn down/loose), curlier, lighter? If you think it looks different and nicer then say, "I like what you did to your hair, it looks nice." If it looks nice and maybe different, but you're not sure because you can't remember what it looked like before you can say, "Did you do something different to your hair? It looks nice." Or, you can just say, "Your hair looks really pretty like that." Some women spend hours on their hair. Noticing it shows her that you value her effort.

Maybe her hair looks the same and it's not all that fabulous. OK. What about her clothes? Take a second. Is she wearing a dress or skirt or high heel shoes that look like they probably hurt to walk in? Has she obviously rushed home from work to change for your date? Maybe she's wearing some interesting jewelry or pleasant perfume. Think for a second. Then say something nice. Something, anything, even if it's as banal as, "You look beautiful tonight."

It should take you no more than 30 seconds to notice (really notice) your date's appearance and the effort she's made to look good for you and then to comment on it. Most women will notice if you did or didn't compliment her. If you didn't, she'll wonder why. It might feed her insecurities or make her question how much you like her. Or it could just make her wonder whether you're just clueless. Don't be clueless.

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