Friday, May 15, 2009

Twitter Flirting (or “Twirting”) Tips

by K. R. Smith

You’ve added your profile to and received some great matches. Let the “twirting” begin! Flirting online can be fun, but you need to be careful too. You don’t have the added benefit of body language to tell someone you’re joking. What can you say to entice someone to openly chat and accept that first date?

Here are some tips for online flirting success:

  • Keep it simple. Use light-hearted emails or IMs with an upbeat tone. Don’t try too hard. Most people will decide in the first few sentences if they like you or not.
  • Hand out compliments. One of the best ways to flirt online is to extend a sincere compliment. One guy told me, “I always try to say something subtle but sincere.” You might say to someone who plays the piano, “I think it is awesome that you play piano.” He added, “Be sincere and don’t throw out phony baloney.”
  • Have Fun. Humor is sexy – everyone likes a partner who can make them smile!
  • Be Confident. Upbeat, optimistic people are natural magnets. People are attracted to those who feel good about themselves and life in general.
  • Avoid Sexual Overtones. At least at first. Flirting does not have to be sexual, and sexual tends to be personal. Wait until you’re relationship is solid to take it to that level.

10 IM or email flirting questions

Based on interviews with hundreds of active daters for Liz M. Hunter’s book, “SMART Man Hunting,” here are 10 proven questions that can help you ignite sparks online:
  1. Where did you get that fantastic smile?
  2. What is your favorite ice cream flavor and why?
  3. What is the most romantic place that you’ve been on a date?
  4. What would you do if we got stuck in a snow storm in the mountains?
  5. If you were going to take me out for a romantic evening, what would we do?
  6. What is your favorite thing to do with a partner for fun?
  7. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
  8. How long have you played guitar? (Ask about something in their profile.)
  9. Wow, is that your cute golden retriever? (Compliment something in their photograph.)
  10. When are we going to meet to find out whether we would ever want to kiss each other? (Depending on the person, you can sound cute using this one)

Just remember to take it slow, have fun and enjoy your new relationships. Done correctly your Twitter flirting could lead to life long love!

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